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Yesterday I laid out the need for healthy, biblical submission that is required for a missional marriage. Today we will briefly look at the second essential ingredient.

2. Christ’s mission first (A mutual prioritization’s around Christ’s mission)


In 1st Corinthians 7, Paul writes something that at first glance seems drastic and irrational. Yet, it’s in the following principle we find what should be the prioritization scheme of every couple in Christ.

1Co 7:29-31 NKJV – 29 But this I say, brethren, the time is short, so that from now on even those who have wives should be as though they had none, 30 those who weep as though they did not weep, those who rejoice as though they did not rejoice, those who buy as though they did not possess, 31 and those who use this world as not misusing it. For the form of this world is passing away.

The world’s passing form

What a bold set of statements. Let the one who is married live as though they are not? The context here is important. Later in this chapter, Paul will go on to explain how marriage can naturally take one’s focus and attention away from the things of the Lord and on to the things of the world.

1Co 7:32-34 NKJV – But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord–how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world–how he may please his wife… The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world–how she may please her husband.

The form of this world is passing away. Its pleasures are temporary, its comforts deceitful, and its treasures momentary.  Yet, for the married couple, it becomes more difficult not to put a high priority on the world. After all, it’s natural for us to want to protect, provide, and have a sense of security in our marriage and family unit. This is why Paul encourages us to put Christ’s mission first in our married life; to serve Christ together just as fervently and passionately as we did when we were single.

This statement is not Paul’s way of saying that we should neglect our spouses and treat them as though they don’t exist. He is not giving someone who is miserable in their marriage an easy out or an excuse to disregard the needs of our mate. He is simply stating facts that should cause us to reprioritize and rethink the purpose of our marriage relationship.

The form of this world is passing away. Its pleasures are temporary, its comforts deceitful, and its treasures momentary.

  • Time is short
  • The world is passing away
  • Jesus is coming back
  • Due to these facts, husbands and wives ought to prioritize the work of Christ’s Kingdom in their marriage.


Now, I’ve seen this principle misapplied. It looks something like this, “My wife told me she was really uncomfortable with me going on the mission trip, but I had to serve the Lord first so I just went anyway.”

No! The only way that Paul’s principle works if both spouses are on the same page. Paul is not saying, “Sacrifice your spouse on the altar of ministry.” Don’t forget, marriage is your first ministry. Many times, division in a marriage comes from the lack of attention to the ministry in the marriage relationship. When a husband is praying with his wife and immersing her in the scripture, and a wife is honoring her husband and walking with the Lord, there is a greater chance that those people will be consistently placing the mission of Christ above their own comforts and fears.


Your marriage is about something bigger than your happiness. The husband and wife who, for the sake of Jesus, can agree to place the priorities of God’s kingdom first in their marriage, will find themselves aligned with the mission of Christ. If both spouses are only concerned with pleasing one another, they will naturally drift towards worldliness and materialism, but if they both agree that the best thing they can do for their marriage is to please Christ first, they will drift closer and closer to eternal effectiveness and fruitfulness. The time is short and the world is passing away. Live as though the mission of Christ is more important than your temporary marital comfort.

Simple tips:

  • Generosity over accumulation – Be unified about giving to the world of the Lord. This will protect your marriage against idolatry and materialism.
  • Devotion over entertainment – develop a discipline of reading God’s word and spending moments in prayer before you turn on Netflix. Trust me, you won’t regret it.
  • Serving over receiving – Find some way that utilizes both your strengths and passions to serve your church or community. It’s always better to give than to receive.
  • Sacrifice over selfishness – When your spouse’s devotion to the Lord makes you uncomfortable, don’t view it as them taking something from you, but rather giving something to Jesus.

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  • Scott Perrenod says:

    I read Paul in 2 Corinthian 7: 29 and I think, wow how …. Do I dare say it, wrong. All you have to do today is look at all the single millennials obsession with themselves and all married couples with children anchoring themselves in the Church and fighting to stay grounded. I know Paul was thinking about the potential for those without spouses and children to have less complications to deter them but in the real world I just don’t see it

  • The Ascending Life says:

    True! Selfishness is the new norm. So tragic!

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